Seduced by Sensemaking
They say smart people join cults because their minds crave cohesion. Basically, smart people are suckers for an explanation that makes sense.
Habits
It seems to me habits used to be bad. But lately, it's as though they're supposed to be our path to salvation.
Lessons from the Cisco Icon Set
If you designed an icon set from scratch to diagram something important about your world, what would it look like?
Interruptibility is a Superpower
Last week, I wrote three conference abstracts while pausing about every half-sentence to interact with my toddler. This workshop will— “Yes, it’s a pink circle.” —help participants to expand and apply their knowledge about— “Oh, you want daddy to draw a circle? Okay!” etc etc etc I finished
How to Be a Seahorse Dad
When your baby has a meltdown on the C train at rush hour and everyone stares – never fear. No one knows you birthed this little one you can't soothe. Let them imagine it's mommy's day off. Let them slot you into that well-trodden
What Does It Mean to Squander?
I’ve been wondering if there is a productivity book for those of us who spend all of our time chestfeeding, or, if away from our baby at work, stuck in the lactation room whenever we can find a moment between meetings. It turns out everything I thought I knew
Maintenance as a Creative Act
Why did I never question my desire to "grow my newsletter"?
Ambivalence, Irreversibility, and Leaning Into the Wonky Parts
I gave birth eleven weeks ago, which means I now have the culturally fraught experience of living in a postpartum body, even if my postpartum body happens to be that of a man. And my body exists in a particular way in relation to my baby—I wake in the
I Do Not Wish to Become a Better Me
Feeling unprepared is not a problem to be solved.
Don't Get Invited Into Narratives That Don't Serve You
As a pregnant trans man, I'm learning to find the stories that serve me, and to let go of the rest.